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It’s OK to Remember

It’s OK to Remember

0 / August 25, 2014 3:13 pm

July 15, 1993 is the day that my mother, at the age of 35, unexpectedly took her last breath. She was the individual who tucked me into bed each night, made sure I was bathed and fed, and played with me. She was the woman who loved me unconditionally and who taught me how to pray. She was the person who held me for the first time and heard my first words. She was the person I trusted more than anyone. I was 4 years old, and we had been together since the day I was born – we were inseparable. I was the epitome of a “mama’s boy.” Suddenly, she was gone…

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Absence of Touch

Absence of Touch

0 / August 14, 2014 9:41 am

Six weeks after my father died, I lost my fifty-six-year-old husband very suddenly. My mother and I have often discussed how sad and strange it was to be widowed at about the same time. Because of factors like our ages, some issues we faced were obviously very different. But Mother and I also found many similarities in our journeys through grief. Recently we were talking about the many challenges we have faced as widows, and how some linger. Mother said “Your father has been gone seven years, but one of the hardest things for me to deal with even now is the absence of touch…

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Are the “What Ifs” Making You Crazy?

Are the “What Ifs” Making You Crazy?

0 / July 31, 2014 9:51 pm

What’s the worst possible thing you can imagine happening? You probably don’t have to think very hard. Most of us have something in mind that would be the unimaginable, impossible-to-survive scenario. Is it: *a terrorist attack? *something catastrophic happening to someone you love? *an IRS audit? *a frightening medical diagnosis? *losing your iPhone? (just threw that one in). Recently, I had a 90 minute crash course in ‘what ifs’ at the Atlanta airport. 45 minutes into the CNN world report, I was convinced the earth would certainly be annihilated…

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8 Alternatives to a Traditional Burial

8 Alternatives to a Traditional Burial

0 / July 23, 2014 8:29 pm

When most of think about funerals, we think of traditional caskets, church and graveside services and a sprinkling of earth into an open grave. This, of course, is the traditional western funeral that we have either been too or seen countless times on TV and in movies. Whilst there is absolutely nothing wrong with this type of funeral, there are alternatives that may be considered slightly less rigid and even have a lighter more convivial feel. An End-of-life plan is something that is purely down to an individual and should be respected according the their beliefs, wishes and choice…

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Grief Survivor 28 Steps Toward Hope and Healing (Featured Book)

Grief Survivor 28 Steps Toward Hope and Healing (Featured Book)

0 / June 24, 2014 4:41 pm

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by grief? You’re not alone! This beautiful hardcover book, Grief Survivor will help you: write about your loved one, understand that you’re not losing your mind- you’re grieving!, know they will not be forgotten, begin to embrace life again after loss. Beth Marshall is the author of two grief-related journals- Grief Survivor, and A Time to Heal, a grief journal. After losing close family members, Marshall found comfort through saving photographs and writing…

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Surviving Grief Without Losing Your Mind

Surviving Grief Without Losing Your Mind

0 / June 13, 2014 3:00 pm

Losing someone you love is like having part of your heart ripped out. Whether death came through sudden catastrophe or a drawn out disease where there was time to prepare, grief often leaves us with more questions than answers. What do I do with all the regrets? Why do people say crazy things when they’re trying to help? Shouldn’t I be able to power through the sorrow on my own? Grief is a process and there are three challenges almost everyone goes through: 1. rehashing regrets is like riding a stationary bicycle…

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Unrealistic Memories

Unrealistic Memories

0 / June 9, 2014 4:00 pm

After you lose someone you love very much, I think it is only natural to think about that person in a very positive way. But sometimes we can go too far, and if we do, we end up with unrealistic memories. I know my husband, Sid, was very bothered when a friend of his died, and his wife promptly turned him into a saint. Sid scolded me about that, saying, “When I go, don’t turn me into some super guy!” Of course to me, he was a super guy. But after he died, I tried to remember those words. We are all human, and if we put someone who has left us that far up on a pedestal…

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Finding a Larger Meaning

Finding a Larger Meaning

0 / June 6, 2014 1:49 pm

Challenge is a necessary part of life. And no one is exempt. That includes people like author-teacher extraordinaire Jean Houston. Being “famous” didn’t allow her to opt out of the process. So here are some of her conclusions after meeting difficult times: 1. “It is absolutely essential to look at what happened in fresh ways. A change in perspective can lead to the way out.” 2. “As much as you can, stop mentally re-living what happened that was so painful. As long as you focus on the pain, you will have pain. When you look for a broader landscape, you open yourself to potent opportunities…

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When Suicide Hits Home

When Suicide Hits Home

0 / May 21, 2014 5:39 pm

One person dies by suicide every 13.7 minutes in the United States, according to the American Suicide Prevention Foundation. You never think your family will become part of such a heartbreaking statistic. From the outside my uncle’s life seemed perfect — lots of friends, a terrific job and a family who adored him. My mom’s fun-loving, talented brother had everything to live for. How could he have taken his own life? Mental illness was not a subject anyone discussed back then. People were expected to be OK or at least pretend they were. As family members…

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Want to Forget about Mother’s Day this Year?

Want to Forget about Mother’s Day this Year?

0 / May 11, 2014 11:40 am

Have you ever wished you could fast forward through something? A tedious conversation, or maybe a visit with the perky dental hygienist and her terrifying arsenal of metal weapons? Mother’s Day isn’t supposed to be on that list, is it? If you’re missing your mother this year, or maybe you’re a mom missing your beloved child, you know what I’m talking about. It’s inescapable- hourly reminders of happy moms and kids everywhere you turn. If you’re considering pulling the percale sheets over your head…

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