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8 Alternatives to a Traditional Burial

8 Alternatives to a Traditional Burial

0 / July 23, 2014 8:29 pm

When most of think about funerals, we think of traditional caskets, church and graveside services and a sprinkling of earth into an open grave. This, of course, is the traditional western funeral that we have either been too or seen countless times on TV and in movies. Whilst there is absolutely nothing wrong with this type of funeral, there are alternatives that may be considered slightly less rigid and even have a lighter more convivial feel. An End-of-life plan is something that is purely down to an individual and should be respected according the their beliefs, wishes and choice…

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Grief Survivor 28 Steps Toward Hope and Healing (Featured Book)

Grief Survivor 28 Steps Toward Hope and Healing (Featured Book)

0 / June 24, 2014 4:41 pm

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by grief? You’re not alone! This beautiful hardcover book, Grief Survivor will help you: write about your loved one, understand that you’re not losing your mind- you’re grieving!, know they will not be forgotten, begin to embrace life again after loss. Beth Marshall is the author of two grief-related journals- Grief Survivor, and A Time to Heal, a grief journal. After losing close family members, Marshall found comfort through saving photographs and writing…

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Surviving Grief Without Losing Your Mind

Surviving Grief Without Losing Your Mind

0 / June 13, 2014 3:00 pm

Losing someone you love is like having part of your heart ripped out. Whether death came through sudden catastrophe or a drawn out disease where there was time to prepare, grief often leaves us with more questions than answers. What do I do with all the regrets? Why do people say crazy things when they’re trying to help? Shouldn’t I be able to power through the sorrow on my own? Grief is a process and there are three challenges almost everyone goes through: 1. rehashing regrets is like riding a stationary bicycle…

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Unrealistic Memories

Unrealistic Memories

0 / June 9, 2014 4:00 pm

After you lose someone you love very much, I think it is only natural to think about that person in a very positive way. But sometimes we can go too far, and if we do, we end up with unrealistic memories. I know my husband, Sid, was very bothered when a friend of his died, and his wife promptly turned him into a saint. Sid scolded me about that, saying, “When I go, don’t turn me into some super guy!” Of course to me, he was a super guy. But after he died, I tried to remember those words. We are all human, and if we put someone who has left us that far up on a pedestal…

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Finding a Larger Meaning

Finding a Larger Meaning

0 / June 6, 2014 1:49 pm

Challenge is a necessary part of life. And no one is exempt. That includes people like author-teacher extraordinaire Jean Houston. Being “famous” didn’t allow her to opt out of the process. So here are some of her conclusions after meeting difficult times: 1. “It is absolutely essential to look at what happened in fresh ways. A change in perspective can lead to the way out.” 2. “As much as you can, stop mentally re-living what happened that was so painful. As long as you focus on the pain, you will have pain. When you look for a broader landscape, you open yourself to potent opportunities…

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When Suicide Hits Home

When Suicide Hits Home

0 / May 21, 2014 5:39 pm

One person dies by suicide every 13.7 minutes in the United States, according to the American Suicide Prevention Foundation. You never think your family will become part of such a heartbreaking statistic. From the outside my uncle’s life seemed perfect — lots of friends, a terrific job and a family who adored him. My mom’s fun-loving, talented brother had everything to live for. How could he have taken his own life? Mental illness was not a subject anyone discussed back then. People were expected to be OK or at least pretend they were. As family members…

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Want to Forget about Mother’s Day this Year?

Want to Forget about Mother’s Day this Year?

0 / May 11, 2014 11:40 am

Have you ever wished you could fast forward through something? A tedious conversation, or maybe a visit with the perky dental hygienist and her terrifying arsenal of metal weapons? Mother’s Day isn’t supposed to be on that list, is it? If you’re missing your mother this year, or maybe you’re a mom missing your beloved child, you know what I’m talking about. It’s inescapable- hourly reminders of happy moms and kids everywhere you turn. If you’re considering pulling the percale sheets over your head…

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Unending Love

Unending Love

0 / April 28, 2014 11:44 am

One of the things that makes it so difficult to adjust after losing a loved one is the absence of their physical presence, and while there is no denying that we cannot see them anymore, the love is still there, and that love is a link that cannot be broken. One could even say it is our eternal connection to each other. That love is what joins us in spirit, whether we are in the body or not. Some of my children live 1500 miles from here, and yet we are very close. Our love for each other connects us every day and makes their presence seem very real…

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When Life Has Been Turned Upside Down

When Life Has Been Turned Upside Down

0 / April 16, 2014 2:58 pm

If someone had asked me twenty years ago what I thought I would be doing now, I can assure you my answer would have come nowhere close to where I am. I had not the slightest inkling that my beloved husband and parents would be taken from us so quickly, but life can take such sudden turns. One minute you can be at the peak of your joy, and the next minute it is snatched right out of your hands – no warning, no nothing, just gone. At least that’s how it was for me.There is no denying the shock was tremendous…

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Wedding Rings and Worldly Things

Wedding Rings and Worldly Things

0 / April 16, 2014 11:17 am

After I was widowed, I became part of a group of men and women who had each also suffered the loss of a spouse. We often got together and discussed our mutual struggles, from financial issues to decisions about when it was the right time to do certain things. What to do about wedding rings and when to do something with our spouses’ worldly possessions were topics that came up very often. And the one thing I discovered was that both of these concerns should be handled in a very individual way. I think it comes down to what you are comfortable with…

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