Caregiving and Hospice Blog

Dear Mary: Caring for Grandma No Comments

Dear Mary, My husband’s mother is not doing very well these days. She is 88 years old and still lives in her own house. She has not been eating well, and is often found in bed when one of her children comes by to visit. My husband and his siblings do take good care of her, but where are the grandchildren to help? There are 11 of them, and none of them come over to actually do anything for her. They drop by to show off their young children and then leave. Why don’t they help out? Rachel…

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Dear Mary: No Longer Welcomed! No Comments

Dear Mary, My Mom just left last night. She was with us for 10 days for a visit. We live about 2,800 miles apart, so it was great to have her here. My wife told me this morning that my Mom is no longer welcomed here. I had no idea that there was a problem that would cause my wife to make that statement. Should I persuade my wife to let my Mom continue to visit us? Alex…

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Dear Mary: Does This Seem Cruel to You? No Comments

Dear Mary, I was talking with my brother who lives close to my Dad’s seniors’ residence. I live 2,500 miles away and miss being there. David was telling me about how Dad’s hearing aids went missing a couple of months ago. Since then, my brother bought him new ones, but only lets my Dad wear them when he goes to visit him. David visits my Dad once a week. When he arrives he lets my Dad use the hearing aids. When David leaves, he takes them with him…

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Dear Mary: My Brother Did Not Tell Me No Comments

Dear Mary, Mom lives in a senior’s building and recently needed emergency surgery. Without the surgery she would have died. My brother and I have not spoken in years. He has POA for her. My brother did not bother to tell me about how sick Mom was or that surgery even happened. I only learned about all of this from my aunt. How can I get my brother to tell me when things like this happen? Chris…

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Dear Mary: I Miss My Dad No Comments

Dear Mary, My Mother has had a stroke and is in a nursing home, my Dad lives with us and is starting to have memory issues. My husband and kids don’t understand that I am stressed, and my boss is getting tired of me taking time off to take my Dad to his medical appointments. I feel guilty about everything! Sandy…

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