Death and Dying Blog

The Steps to Acknowledging Life’s Biggest Finances No Comments

As people meander their way through life, obligations are aplenty and people handle them in unique ways. Some are tough, some are fun and several just simply have to be taken care of. Every person and every family has situations that pose a challenge in their own right, and a nearly universal belief is that any obstacle or duty in life is easier to handle when people are better prepared. Certain people get lucky and avoid major health problems. Others are fortunate and avoid marital challenges or happiness issues…

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Your Guide To Putting Funeral Plans In Place No Comments

Unfortunately, there’s little way to avoid the pain of losing a loved one, but if you are suffering from a bereavement taking control of the funeral plans can give you a purpose that will help guide you through this difficult time. Organising a fitting funeral is a wonderful way to honour the departed and give them the send-off they deserve. Arranging a funeral for a loved one is not an everyday occurrence, it can be a daunting prospect which grief only making it more difficult. However, with the right funeral director…

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Entering and Exiting: Preparing for End of Life No Comments

Entering and exiting life certainly has a transformative effect. Both require enormous internal preparation. When a birth is expected, a family’s priority is dominated by the coming arrival. The new family must adjust emotionally, spiritually and financially for the additional responsibilities. Even though a new arrival might cramp the pocket book with the purchase of a crib, clothes, diapers and all the other necessary paraphernalia, it is gleefully accepted. On the other hand…

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What Dying Can Teach Us About Saving the World No Comments

Life has a way of leading us to unexpected places. As for me, back when I was a hospice physician making house calls to care for the dying patients on our service I never dreamed I would one day write a book about that experience. I didn’t know that my own life would be profoundly changed by listening to the stories of those patients and learning from them the lessons that were being revealed as they drew closer and closer to death. But that is exactly what happened…

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Dear Mary: Dividing Up the Ashes No Comments

Dear Mary, My mom just passed the Wednesday before Easter and now we are having problems with a brother who showed up after 35 years of absence. He wants the ashes from mom. We are going to take her back to you home where the rest of the family is. Mom wanted us to the two daughters to do this. She also informed us not to let the boys (our brothers) to not do this. She has tried over the years to call , write letters to the one brother that has been gone but there has never been a response. He has started to cause problems within the family by saying hurtful things…

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Memorial Service Basics: Honoring the Deceased, Comforting the Bereaved No Comments

After my daughter and father-in-law died the same weekend, my husband and I were in such shock we could hardly think. Family members agreed that we could not hold two services at this time. We would have a service for our daughter and have a memorial for my father-in-law at a later date. Planning our daughter’s memorial service was a challenge because we did not belong to her church. All we could do was rely on our instincts and focus on memorial service basics. What are these basics?…

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Learn Before You Burn – What I Like About Cremation No Comments

So you have decided you want to be burned up when you die. Cremation is a “hot” topic!. There are a couple of things I like about cremation, so let me give you some fuel for your fire. My father died some years ago at the age of 70—heart failure. He knew he was dying and leaned on my mother throughout the ordeal. My Mother is of German descent and a very strong, independent woman. She did not cry at my father’s funeral and seemed to be a “tower of strength”. At one point, she came to me and said…

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