Accepting What We Cannot Change

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Accepting What We Cannot ChangeLife is very much a continual weaning process. We come into the world dependent on other people, but over the course of time we are forced more and more to rely not so much on others as on That which is within us which is both Source and Sustainer. I’m talking about learning to put your hand in the only Hand that can lead you not only through life but through death as well.

The process begins when death first comes into our lives as children through the gradual loss of family and friends, and it does not end until we, too, face that portal which only the soul can enter. How we deal with these losses, how we let our faith sustain us, how we allow that Hand to lead us, no matter what, not only determines how we approach that door, but is also integral to the teaching/learning process of which our example is a part.

It is said that children learn through watching. I think we all do. In seeing how others cope with the challenge grief presents, we each are forced to weigh our own beliefs and attitudes. We are challenged to search out that which rings true in our deepest heart of hearts as we continue to develop the premise on which we are forever trying to build our foundation.

There is considerable responsibility here, when you stop to think about it. Accepting the inevitable and making peace with it enables you to find a Way when there does not seem to be a way. It allows you to reach for the heights even while your spirit is at the depths of its grief. It makes it possible not only for you to go on, to find new meaning and new purpose for your life, but to do it knowing that all is not lost, only changed, and while that change can be soul-shattering, strength is forged from the crucible of that grief even while joy is found in the knowledge that this is not the end but rather the beginning.

Yes, it is the beginning of a new chapter in which we learn that the relationships that helped make us what we are have not ended at all. Indeed, they have become richer through the new dimension in which they now must find expression. Now we see that the cycles which may seem to separate us are but the cycles of our evolution. As we seek, through faith, the means and the will to continue, so, too, do we find new meaning and purpose for our lives. It is this meaning and this purpose that enables us to face death, even our own death, with a serenity and a peace that is born of the knowledge that all is well, and all shall be well, even when life has been turned upside down and all is changed beyond recognition.

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Donna Miesbach is an award-winning author, having received the 2013 Silver Nautilus Award for her book, From Grief to Joy, A Journey Back to Life & Living, in which she tells the moving story of her recovery from the loss of her husband and b...