Grief and Loss Blog

Honoring As A Means Toward Healing No Comments

When someone we love deeply leaves this earth, often the emptiness in our heart sits like a heavy weight inside of our heart or stomach area. As a grief counselor, mothers who have lost their child say they often feel as if they have no idea who they are anymore because all that they have known (or at least a part of it) is now gone. Where do I put my love? Where do I go with this ache and longing? After everyone around me goes back on with his or her lives and I am still sitting with this terrible missing, what do I do? There are many ways to answer that question…

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Continue Your Hobbies As You Grieve for a Loved One No Comments

My mother loved to bake. Her orange sponge cake was famous in the neighborhood and our church. She was also known for her chocolate and blonde brownies, flaky homemade biscuits, and French chocolate cake. Friends would drop off ingredients and ask my mother to bake for them. If she had wanted, she could have turned her skills into a business. Mixes weren’t available yet and everything she baked was made from scratch. It’s a wonder any baked goods came from our tiny kitchen…

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Joining Life Again After the Death of a Child: Your Grief Recovery No Comments

My daughter died from the injuries she received in a car crash. Surgeons operated on her for 20 hours, but were unable to save her life. Her injuries were too severe and her brain had stopped functioning. With disbelief and dread, my husband and I signed the papers to stop all life support. When my daughter’s life ended, I felt mine had come to a halt. The experience was surreal and I walked around in a daze. But my husband and I hardly had time to mourn, when, nine months later, her former husband died…

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Surviving the Holidays After a Loss No Comments

When your heart is broken in grief, you’re not sure how you are going to get through the next day, much less the holidays. Holidays should be spent with the ones we love. It’s a time of celebration, of giving to those we care about. So, if your loved one has died, please don’t think I am in any way making light of the hole you must feel in the center of your being. I only wish to offer ways to honor and remember the one who is gone from your life. My brother committed suicide when I was in my mid-twenties (he was thirty-two). His birthday is October 4th, so that was the first…

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It’s OK to be Depressed…Sometimes No Comments

During the first few years of my widowhood, when I was working through my grief, I’d occasionally have to tackle the monster of “DEPRESSION”. Of course the most obvious times were around holidays, special days of birthdays and anniversaries, and lifetime milestones of dance recitals, proms, and graduations. Then there were longer episodes of depression when I was tired of doing it alone. Times when everything seemed dark and I didn’t want to be happy. If the depression was caused by the anticipation of a special “day” or holiday…

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Finding Peace After the Death of a Grandchild No Comments

I’m an ordinary person just like you, trying to keep up with life and make the most of every day. Usually, we wake up each morning with plans for what we need or want to do that day. We get ourselves in gear and begin to put the day’s plan in motion without every thinking life might throw us a curve ball. Then one day, we get that pitch. If you’ve ever received news that puts you in a state of shock, you know how it feels to be left wondering how you can possible handle what was just thrown your way…

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Grief Healing and the Power of Afterlife Signs 2 Comments

Since 1998, during my grief support work, I have observed time and again the remarkable healing affects that take place when the bereaved receive a personal afterlife sign from their departed loved ones. Many who were deeply grieving and in a very dark place would later confide in me that the only reason they did not follow through on their thoughts of suicide was because they had received an afterlife sign. Some of these “signs” may be in the form of: happy and vivid dreams where you get to see…

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10 Ways To Save Your Marriage After a Child Dies No Comments

When a child dies, most parents assume their marriage will be in jeopardy because they have read that 90% of marriages fail after the death of a child. A recent survey has proven this supposed fact to be a myth. From the survey it was found that only 16 % divorce and only 4 % said it was because of the death and the fact that there were problems in the marriage before the child died. The untimely death of a child can be an opportunity for growth to bring the two people closer together…

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