Grief and Loss Blog

Reconstruction: The First Year No Comments

Five days from today will mark the first year since my wife died. The actual date this year is on Sunday, but since the date last year was on Saturday and she died early in the morning, just after midnight, to me, the year ends as I relive that horrible Friday night. I have been reliving the week day by day not…

The Needs of Grief: Safety No Comments

If you boil down everything all of us authors have written about grieving, it boils down to one word–PERMISSION. The key to a successful grief journey is finding permission to grieve. The best thing to do with our grief is to grieve, but finding permission from ourselves and from others is not an easy thing to…

It’s One Year Later No Comments

In grief, we often refer to the anniversary of a loved one as an “angelversary,” the annual remembrance of our loved one who has left a tattoo on our heart. I now have the opportunity to celebrate two angelversaries: the first on April 14th when my husband Rod passed away, and the second on September 10th…

Sorting through the Keepsakes No Comments

Just when you think you have endured all the pain and suffering a human could tolerate following the death of a loved one, a new daunting task lurks around the corner. What to do with all the personal belongings? The quick answer is — do nothing right now unless you have to. Why? Making decisions too soon can lead…

The Journey of Grief No Comments

There are no experts on grief, and that includes me. As I often say in these blogs, “Grief is as unique as a finger print,” so no one can be an expert about any grief other than their own. Most of what I know about grief comes from the stories people tell about their unique journey. I am here to just report on the…