Grief and Loss Blog

A Message of Hope for the Bereaved from Ligia M. Houben No Comments

Grief is the natural response to a loss. As a Certified Grief Counselor, Life Transitions Coach, and a Fellow of the American Academy of Grief Counseling, Ligia has specialized in helping others deal with any loss or difficult life transition in a caring and empowering way. People generally try to ignore their…

Clichés of Grief – Fumbling How and What to Say No Comments

This is probably the most overwhelming part for a supporter. Are there really any words to share with someone who is suffering from the loss of a loved one? Of course we can come up with what we think are comforting words, but the majority of us fumble on what to say and how to embrace a friend or family member who…

Tragedy Connects Us All No Comments

I had the honor of being interviewed by our local newspaper for a special section devoted to the tenth anniversary of the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks. Eight victims had ties to my community. The surviving family members of three of these families shared their journeys for this article. I was interviewed…

Continuing The Journey of Grief No Comments

In an earlier blog titled The Journey Of Grief I described grief as a journey from having your loved one right in front of your face, to their presence being more in the heart and in memories. The woman who first explained this analogy to me said her daughter seemed to sit on her shoulder and live in her heart…

Reconstruction: The First Year No Comments

Five days from today will mark the first year since my wife died. The actual date this year is on Sunday, but since the date last year was on Saturday and she died early in the morning, just after midnight, to me, the year ends as I relive that horrible Friday night. I have been reliving the week day by day not…

The Needs of Grief: Safety No Comments

If you boil down everything all of us authors have written about grieving, it boils down to one word–PERMISSION. The key to a successful grief journey is finding permission to grieve. The best thing to do with our grief is to grieve, but finding permission from ourselves and from others is not an easy thing to…

It’s One Year Later No Comments

In grief, we often refer to the anniversary of a loved one as an “angelversary,” the annual remembrance of our loved one who has left a tattoo on our heart. I now have the opportunity to celebrate two angelversaries: the first on April 14th when my husband Rod passed away, and the second on September 10th…